We all need to understand that these emotions, when expressed in different ways, can be in either a positive manner or a negative one. And, they can be passionate or can be turbulent. When they are turbulent and if one does not know how to manage them, they can turn destructive. Just as I write this, I read in the papers that a teenage girl clubbed her father to death because she could not put up with his violent behaviour at home. We also did encounter another experience a few years ago where a young schoolboy fatally attacked a much younger boy so that the school would declare a holiday.
So, what caused them to behave in such a manner? We really need to understand this. And to find that out, we need to ask a question – “does everyone take to reasoning when they experience thoughts that then cause them to feel hurt or sad or gloomy, which then leads to a behaviour that can be destructive or disturbing in nature?” Why is it that they are so impulsive and do not have the patience to reason out their actions?
Also, it is quite noticeable that while the children of today can be more intelligent in terms of knowledge and it’s applications and can be brilliant in terms of handling issues related to engineering and finance and marketing, they also can be quite helpless when it comes to managing situations that can go against them. They can be found wanting when having to handle failures. Even some of the most talented and brightest minds, the so called geniuses have gone to the extreme of taking their own lives in such situations. Certainly, something to think about, is it not?
Unless and until the habits of emotional management are not repeatedly taught to children, they will not be in a position to get this moulded into their system, and into the circuitry of their brain. While it is imperative that parents, whose role is primary in doing this, play their part well, schools also certainly can contribute and quite effectively at that in developing a child’s Emotional Quotient. The habits that children acquire over a period of time as a result of this during their childhood, will then help in shaping their minds and their future in the right direction. Children must be taught to understand Emotions as well as to learn to manage them effectively and in a balanced manner.
After all, as the great Aristotle had once said, “Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.”
Manish Gupta – EI Workshop Consultant, Motivational Speaker and Educationist.